I know I said I'd listen to your voice in my head as I read your book, but I might now have to order the audio book as well!!! This is incredible, and ENRAGING.
What is it with fucking men? My first husband broke all my record albums, and I had a couple of hundred. He burned all my pictures--my family, friends, prom pics, everything I had--even old baby pictures. He burned my graduation diploma from high school and the certificate from when I'd been baptized.. This he did mostly in front of me though, so I knew. Yours was far, FAR worse.
He said I had to start with a completely "clean slate" with him. I wasn't allowed to keep the clothes I had before either. I was 18 and right out of high school, and didn't have any idea what I was getting into. He waited until after we were married to do this shit.
This is horrific. I am so very sorry for all the things he stole from you.
I am a refuge. We left so much behind when we ran. So much of my family’s history. The photos. Almost everything. I feel its loss so keenly now at almost 50 with my own kids. I would not wish this on my enemy let alone the people I love.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so very sorry that you were forced to leave so much of your life behind--I can't imagine what that felt like then (or now), or how you managed to do what you did! My heart hurts for you, and I'm sending you so much love right now <3 xoxo
Lately if it isn't audio I don't read it, thanks to spending hours on student work. I can't wait to listen to the book, and I will listen to this today as an appetizer.
Loved and so related to this. I'm wondering if the audiobook version will be available to purchase and listen to on Spotify or will it only be available on Audible? I want to preorder, but really prefer an audio version.
Congratulations! This is an incredible, and much needed, accomplishment. AMAZING. I've purchased for myself, and friends who don't know I think they should get a divorce. That's how it works, right?
That man was so small. You had to take his last name. Your kids did too. And that wasn’t enough. Not even close. The absolute fragility. I hear this and struggle to believe this is the same species that claims fewer emotions and greater superiority in logic and reasoning
You're going to be way too busy with book tours to be able to do a book club using your book right now, but what about in the future, Lyz? I've been thinking about it ever since I listened to this! I know it's definitely something that I would be interested in, and maybe others would, too 😍
When I first met my wife's family, I wore a pair of very, very loud plaid shorts. After that day, I never saw them again. It took me several decades, but I finally figured out what happened. In hindsight, her decision was correct.
It's nice to hear your voice, but I still look forward to the print version.
It's never right to just take something--I don't care what they looked like. There should have been a conversation, where you would probably have given them up, since you said she was correct in her decision. My concert T-shirts I guess weren't something my husband thought I should ever wear again either, but they were MINE.
Can't wait to get to the book in my Audible playlist. What strikes me about these first pages is how much we give in order to "get" marriage and family. I watched my intellect, ambition, passion, and vitality drain away for 37 years hitched to a pretty good man. It took panic attacks and a pandemic to break myself out. I'm oh, so much happier on this side of ever-after.
For the entirety of my marriage, my husband had been taking things of mine he didn't like,
and hiding them in this box and...
the basement. — SUCH incandescent RAGE at that 🤬😫 I can’t wait to read the book!
I am amazed at how common this is. Enraging.
I know I said I'd listen to your voice in my head as I read your book, but I might now have to order the audio book as well!!! This is incredible, and ENRAGING.
What is it with fucking men? My first husband broke all my record albums, and I had a couple of hundred. He burned all my pictures--my family, friends, prom pics, everything I had--even old baby pictures. He burned my graduation diploma from high school and the certificate from when I'd been baptized.. This he did mostly in front of me though, so I knew. Yours was far, FAR worse.
That is so enraging!!!
He said I had to start with a completely "clean slate" with him. I wasn't allowed to keep the clothes I had before either. I was 18 and right out of high school, and didn't have any idea what I was getting into. He waited until after we were married to do this shit.
This is horrific. I am so very sorry for all the things he stole from you.
I am a refuge. We left so much behind when we ran. So much of my family’s history. The photos. Almost everything. I feel its loss so keenly now at almost 50 with my own kids. I would not wish this on my enemy let alone the people I love.
You have my deepest sympathy.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so very sorry that you were forced to leave so much of your life behind--I can't imagine what that felt like then (or now), or how you managed to do what you did! My heart hurts for you, and I'm sending you so much love right now <3 xoxo
This is unforgivable. Photos from youth/childhood/family of origin are truly irreplaceable. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Thank you <3
this is truly terrible. I'm so sorry.
Thank you <3
Lately if it isn't audio I don't read it, thanks to spending hours on student work. I can't wait to listen to the book, and I will listen to this today as an appetizer.
Loved and so related to this. I'm wondering if the audiobook version will be available to purchase and listen to on Spotify or will it only be available on Audible? I want to preorder, but really prefer an audio version.
That’s a good question about Spotify. I don’t know and I will ask on Monday. I think it’s only Audible
Enjoyed hearing your voice, Lyz. I now think I’ll order the audio vs. the print version.
I already pre-ordered the print, but am going to order the audio, too after listening to this!
Same. Just pre-ordered it.
Already preordered the audio!
I'm so looking forward to the arrival of my copy!
Congratulations! This is an incredible, and much needed, accomplishment. AMAZING. I've purchased for myself, and friends who don't know I think they should get a divorce. That's how it works, right?
That man was so small. You had to take his last name. Your kids did too. And that wasn’t enough. Not even close. The absolute fragility. I hear this and struggle to believe this is the same species that claims fewer emotions and greater superiority in logic and reasoning
You're going to be way too busy with book tours to be able to do a book club using your book right now, but what about in the future, Lyz? I've been thinking about it ever since I listened to this! I know it's definitely something that I would be interested in, and maybe others would, too 😍
Just, wow. 😤
Great book excerpt!
Can’t wait to read the rest.
Wow I am fucking PISSED about him! Can’t wait for the book.
When I first met my wife's family, I wore a pair of very, very loud plaid shorts. After that day, I never saw them again. It took me several decades, but I finally figured out what happened. In hindsight, her decision was correct.
It's nice to hear your voice, but I still look forward to the print version.
I am sorry something got taken from you but also I think the two situations are very very different
Oh, of course, I know that.
I just thought I'd add my two cents.
It's never right to just take something--I don't care what they looked like. There should have been a conversation, where you would probably have given them up, since you said she was correct in her decision. My concert T-shirts I guess weren't something my husband thought I should ever wear again either, but they were MINE.
Can't wait to get to the book in my Audible playlist. What strikes me about these first pages is how much we give in order to "get" marriage and family. I watched my intellect, ambition, passion, and vitality drain away for 37 years hitched to a pretty good man. It took panic attacks and a pandemic to break myself out. I'm oh, so much happier on this side of ever-after.
Just got shipping information from Barnes & Noble. Bookshop.org hopefully soon. I'm so excited!