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Becky G's avatar

I've been spending a lot of time on LinkedIn, and I've seen several posts lately of women expressing gratitude to their companies for providing maternity leave. I haven't (yet) taken the time to look up these companies to see what kind of leave they offer, but the babies in the photos? Babies. They're nowhere near crawling and certainly not toddling. So, I'm guessing the leaves were six weeks? Eight weeks? Twelve weeks, maybe, if they were "lucky."

You know why magazines in places like Norway don't have articles every other page about how to use a breast pump at work or how to get your company to accommodate your need for a clean, quiet room to do so? Because their maternity leaves are long enough that women are no longer breastfeeding when they return to work. And their maternity and paternity leaves are not provided at the whim of wealthy companies that decide to throw them a bone of time off and then fire them whenever they want. They are required by law and EVERY company is required to follow the law regarding them.

Ours aren't. We don't HAVE a safety net. We never have. We just have a few little bandages politicians insist we slap on our problems and call it good.

I didn't have a FT/permanent job when I gave birth, so my "maternity leave" was staying home. The corporation my ex worked for gave him five days off. FIVE DAYS. This is a global company, and his cousin who worked for the SAME COMPANY was eligible for a full year of leave at 100% pay and even longer at reduced pay. That's because the country it was doing business in REQUIRED IT BY LAW to provide that. THAT is (only part of) a real safety net.

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Zach's avatar

'two things are holding us back: the refusal of men to participate equally in family and home life, and the ongoing gutting of the social safety net.'

So the first requires men to contribute their fair share, and the second requires the rich to contribute their fair share.

It's hard to be optimistic.

We have to hold on to what you wrote in closing, about community. We are going to find out how strong our communities are, or aren't, in this country, because that's the only way we can possibly withstand the war our (federal) government is waging on us.

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