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A Year in Newsletters 2022

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A Year in Newsletters 2022

The year of community

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Dec 28, 2022
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A Year in Newsletters 2022

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All years are strange in their own way. I recall in 2017, after reading another, “this was the worst year” essay thinking, maybe all years are bad in their own way. Maybe there was never a good year. There were only the years when we were more ignorant, more blind. There are only the years we can pretend we are not spiders hanging precariously off a cliff, floating on a single strand of silk.

That’s the thing about the internet, everyone can know everything all the time, and nothing all at once.

This is my third year running this newsletter, and it’s my second year running it as a full-time job. In that time, the newsletter has accrued 30,000 subscribers and over 3,000 paid subscribers. And we are continuing to grow.

I say “we”, because, this year, I’ve learned a lot about running a little media company, but the main thing I’ve learned is, I do not do this alone. The best part about this newsletter is the community.

This year, I launched a Discord server, Flyover Politics. Where I got to know many of you very well. We talked about pets and parents and fears and hopes and who likes Pepsi and who is a sociopath (but I repeat myself). And I’ve been impressed to see people grow and change in the Discord too. There was one conversation early on about pronouns, where I saw someone thank other posters and say they wanted to think about things more deeply. I was shocked. That’s not supposed to happen online. But it did.

I’ve also heard about the things you are dealing with out in the world. Shifts at work, in home, and in life. And it’s changed how I think.

I think I see more now, the politics of the personal — how so often our best hope and redemption comes not from the political leaders we task with saving us, but from one another. From the mutual aid groups we form, the non-profits we create, the radical acts of care, and the communities we have. These aren’t perfect solutions. We need a strong social safety net so no one gets lost. But if we’ve learned anything from 2020 and these ensuing years, it’s that we have to stop begging for our lives, and fight for them and fight for one another. This year, I’ve personally and professionally worked on expanding my sense of community, inviting in friends to hang out with me and my kids and in the process, building around them a community of support. I’ve worked on building up my home. And I’ve worked building up this space. All to be places of inclusivity and conversation. And often that means stepping back and being quiet and listening. And that means asking for help. In 2023, I’ll be hiring someone to help me manage all of this. And your subscriptions will directly support that person.

There is a lot I have yet to learn. This year,

The White Pages
joined the Discord community. And I’ve learned so much from how
Garrett Bucks
formulates community and cares for people.

And in looking at the newsletters that were popular this year, I noticed that it’s the ones that strike a personal tone that resonates the most. Readers, you, want to see what is at stake with big political issues and discussions and feel the emotional resonance. And, maybe, we all want to feel less alone.

I have to admit, there have been times these past two years when I’ve called people to be interviewed for the newsletter and felt very silly saying, “Can I interview you for my newsletter? It’s called ‘Men Yell at Me’ but it’s not weird or anything, okay just a little weird.” There have also been times where I’ve texted friends to tell them that I feel very silly just writing in my little newsletter about dingii. Like, how is that a job? And who the hell do I think I am thinking that enough people care about what I think to keep writing?

But this year, I noticed a shift. People were asking me to be in the newsletter. When I called and talked to people, often, they told me they’d heard of the newsletter and liked it and were impressed with the number of people who subscribe and comment. I will also be traveling more and covering more stories. All because of your subscriptions and your support. And because you all read this newsletter, it no longer feels weird to reach out to places and say, “I want to write about this for my newsletter.”

I still feel silly (just like perpetually ridiculous). And still question my bona fides, but I am more confident now, not because of me, but because of this community. Because of the thoughts and ideas and stories shared here. Because you’ve challenged me and each other, because you all volunteer, and vote, and talk, and ask hard questions, and often, tell me to my face, that you don’t always agree with me, but you are here to figure this all out. Because of the articles you post, the thoughts you have. And now when I have those days of despair, it’s easier to push through, because I realize, I don’t have to have all the answers. Sometimes, I can just share and listen. Because I’m not doing this alone.

So this year, if there was a theme, it was community. It was getting close, getting uncomfortable, and learning to care for ourselves and each other in that mess.

Thank you for being part of this community with me. Thank you for your thoughts and stories. And I will note that as I was digging into the data on the most popular stories, I saw that in the top 20 were the newsletters I posted in the last half of the year. Showing that MYAM is only getting better.

And with that, here are the newsletters you loved the most in 2022.

  1. The Subversive Joy of Being a Single Mother:

    This newsletter about just being really freaking happy with my life has had so much resonance. I have a book coming out in 2024 about divorce, and one thing I noticed is how often the narrative is about the poor miserable divorcee when in reality, it’s really great to build the life you want.

Men Yell at Me
The Subversive Joy of Being a Single Mother
This is the mid-week essay for Men Yell at Me, a newsletter about the places our politics and our personhood collide. This week’s newsletter is about being a single mother and the stigma and joy of building a life outside the nuclear family. If you love this newsletter, consider becoming a subscriber…
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8 months ago · 249 likes · 107 comments · lyz
  1. That’s How It Works When You’re a Woman on the Internet: This newsletter is deeply personal and written by Aubrey Hirsch. I am not gonna lie. Most often, the guest posts are not your favorites. But every year, one hits exactly the right chord, and this one, by Aubrey did. I’m sure it’s because she’s a deeply talented writer and illustrator. But also, because I think it looks at the flip side of the debate about who is silenced online and challenges the narratives we tell ourselves about safety and the First Amendment.

Men Yell at Me
That’s How It Works When You’re a Woman on the Internet
This is the midweek edition of Men Yell at Me, a newsletter about the places where our politics and our personhood collide. This week’s essay is by Aubrey Hirsch, author of Why We Never Talk About Sugar. Aubrey’s stories, essays, and comics have appeared in…
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a year ago · 138 likes · 33 comments · lyz
  1. The Joy of Being Alone:

    My newsletter about being a single mother drew so much feedback, I decided to write a second newsletter about it. And it was just as popular, if not more so.

Men Yell at Me
The Joy of Being Alone
Back in June, I wrote about the “Subversive Joy of Being a Single Mother.” Since I published it, it is one of my most popular and most controversial newsletters. It inspired a lot of “unsubscribes” but still more “subscribes.” One commenter left the community after asking why I was so hostile to marriage. “Marriage,” I replied, “is hostile to me.” Recen…
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5 months ago · 216 likes · 67 comments · lyz
  1. The Cult of Casey’s:

    Back in 2019, I spent a lot of time pitching a story to various outlets about the culture of gas stations. I pitched the idea as a look inside the culture of the Midwest, about atrophying towns, and wide open spaces. I kept pitching this idea through 2020. And most often, I never heard back. This year, I finally just gave up and wrote it for myself. And you all loved it. This was the most-shared newsletter I’ve ever written.

Men Yell at Me
The Cult of Casey's: How Gas Stations Became Essential to American Culture
This is the mid-week version of Men Yell at Me, a newsletter about the politics and policies that inform life in the American Middle West. This week’s newsletter is about something I’ve been thinking about for a long time: namely, gas station pizza, why it’s so good and why it has a fanatical fan base. I hope you enjoy this! Also, if you value the work …
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a year ago · 105 likes · 122 comments · lyz
  1. Doing a Little Word Puzzle as the World Burns:

    I got really burnt out in August. It was a summer of intense parenting my kids through some pandemic-related anxieties and book writing. So, I decided to write about my little Wordle obsession and about the beauty of distraction and the things we hold onto.

Men Yell at Me
Doing a Little Word Puzzle as the World Burns
This is the mid-week edition of Men Yell at Me, a newsletter about the places our politics and personhood collide. This week’s newsletter is about Wordle, and roses, and trying to live. If you love this newsletter, become a subscriber. Like millions of Americans, I start my day with Wordle. Then, I move on to the Spelling Bee. I love the rhythm and the p…
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6 months ago · 237 likes · 69 comments · lyz
  1. Dingus of the Week: Mother’s Day:

    Well, this was the year, my Friday newsletters cracked the top ten. In previous years, the Friday newsletters were always an afterthought, a kind of grab bag of jokes and links. But if there is a second theme to this year, it might be the year the weekly dingus came into it’s own.

    Men Yell at Me
    Dingus of the Week: Mother's Day
    This is the Weekly Dingus, the Friday newsletter, where I round up my internet reads, share a drink recipe, and vent about something really dingusy that happened in the news. This week, it’s Mother’s Day. But once it was SCOTUS. Another time it was Joe Manchin…
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    9 months ago · 82 likes · 46 comments · lyz
  2. The Grassley Legacy:

    I spent the better part of 2022 looking into the life of Chuck Grassley and the Iowa race for the Senate. I wrote two stories about it, one a profile of Grassley for Vanity Fair. And another story about the senate race for Politico. I learned a lot about this state, its people, the contradictions, hopes, and the lies we tell ourselves. (My favorite lie is, “Grassley used to be respectable.” My friends, he was endorsed by the KKK in 1980 and that didn’t bother many people then. So, if you think he used to be respectable you are telling on yourself.) But, writing for other outlets, I can’t always say all the things I want to say. So, I did a special subscriber’s-only newsletter about Grassley answering your questions. It brought in a lot of new paid subscribers.

    Men Yell at Me
    The Grassley Legacy
    This newsletter is an addendum to a profile I wrote for Vanity Fair. The profile highlighted Grassley’s ties to extremism and traced his exhaustive history. But I had to leave some things on the cutting room floor. If Republicans win the Senate in 2024, Grassley will be the most senior member of the party and president pro tempore of the Senate. Grassley is often under-scrutinized and underestimated…
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    7 months ago · 86 likes · 29 comments · lyz
  3. Everybody is Leaving Iowa:

    One of the strengths of my writing, I think, is that I live here. I didn’t used to live in the Midwest, I still do. And I am still in this mess with all of you. I wrote a love letter and a lament to Iowa. And I heard from so many people across the country that it feels relevant to their states too.

    Men Yell at Me
    Everybody is Leaving Iowa
    This is the mid-week edition of Men Yell at Me, a newsletter about personhood and politics written by a journalist (me), living in Iowa. Subscriptions make it possible for me to stay in Iowa, even as everyone is leaving…
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    4 months ago · 140 likes · 53 comments · lyz
  4. Dingus of the Week: Women’s Fashion

    Once again, the dingus of the week proves popular. This time skewering the ideas promoted by women’s fashion.

    Men Yell at Me
    Dingus of the Week: Women’s Fashion
    This is the Weekly Dingus, the Friday newsletter, where I round up my internet reads, share a drink recipe, and vent about something really dingusy that happened in the news. This week, it’s women’s fashion. But once it was the groundhog. Another time it was…
    Read more
    9 months ago · 79 likes · 84 comments · lyz
  5. Roe is Already Dead

    In 2020, I published a book about reproductive rights, which in many ways predicted the Dobbs decision and the 2022 rollback of women’s rights. This newsletter was written about how reproductive rights had been undermined for years and argued that the fight for reproductive justice had to be more inclusive.

    Men Yell at Me
    Roe is Already Dead
    This is the mid-week issue of Men Yell at Me, a newsletter about the places where our politics and personhood meet. This week’s newsletter is in response to the prognosticating about what would happen if Roe v. Wade was overturned and about the reality of reproductive care for people in America. Please support this newsletter by becoming a subscriber…
    Read more
    10 months ago · 83 likes · 12 comments · lyz

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StellaH
Dec 28, 2022Liked by lyz

Thanks again, Lyz, for all you do. I gifted my daughter a subscription and we have bonded over the great content...superb topics ( and we live in iowa too, so it really hits the sweet spot), Kudoes!!!!! 🙏🏽💛

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Jenni D.
Dec 28, 2022Liked by lyz

2022, the year I went from thinking the way Ina Garden dresses is silly to realizing it's genius. How simple is that?

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